The Rooted Woman

RWA few weeks ago, I was e-introduced to India Williams who is founder of Rooted Woman, a Christian-based nail polish line. After reviewing her site, it was important that I find a way to support her business endeavors. Check out the latest Winter collection of colors and enter for your chance to win a free polish as part of our Thanks-giveaway. Here’s what India has to say about what being a Rooted Woman really means.

Rooted Woman, a Christian-based retailer specializing in nail polish, started as a movement to encourage high-achieving, professional women to slow down and make time for self-care.

Our line of 5-Free (as close to organic as possible) nail polish is available in 14 colors that are updated seasonally. The Winter 2015 line is themed “Declarations of Faith”.

After launching a successful career with a Big Law firm in one of the nation’s most prestigious markets for legal services, something unexpected happen. I got sick, and for the first time, I wasn’t able to power through in typical super girl fashion. Forced to pump the brakes on my usual mode of giving 100% to everyone all the time, I took the experience as a wake up call, personally and professionally.

During this time, I also conceived the idea to start Rooted Woman. At the heart of Rooted Woman is an innate desire to provide a transformative Christian-based retail experience. It is based upon the realization that rest is just as important as work. We have to fill our own cups so that we have enough to give to ourselves and to those who love us. It’s not selfish. It’s necessary.

We have to believe that we’re worth the time, effort and the resources to take care of ourselves. Our hope is that in the process, we’ll create a community of women who acknowledge and value their own worth.
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IWIndia D. Williams is the founder of Rooted Woman. She is also a global finance associate in Chicago at an international law firm.
India’s prayer: “We have to believe that we’re worth the time, effort and the resources to take care of ourselves. My hope is that in the process, we’ll create a community of women who acknowledge and value their own worth.”

Thanks-giveaway!

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In the spirit of the thanksgiving, Whine & Cheese wants to treat YOU for the holidays! Between November 15-December 2015, enter our holiday giveaway for a chance to win great gifts.

Here’s how to enter:

1. Be a current general member or active branch member of Whine & Cheese. Join here.
2. Complete a brief survey here.
The gifts are as follows:
1. Plan A Way to Success (by Sharman Monroe) and “Favored” nail lacquer by Rooted Woman
2. After the Pain: Transforming Pain into Personal Power (by LaChish Latimer) and “Renewed” nail lacquer by Rooted Woman

The Dreaded Woman

I’m a woman and the words “Proverbs 31 woman” make me cringe.  Every Mother’s Day when the male pastors dust off their sermons about the Proverbs 31 woman, I check out. I wonder if they really understand what they are talking about. I roll my eyes at the thought of getting up everyday while it’s still dark outside and everyone is still sleeping to make breakfast, lunch and dinner for my household (Prov. 31:15).  The thought of planting and maintaining a garden to feed my family on top of making everyone’s clothes makes my head spin. (Prov. 31:16-22). I suck my teeth at the thought of my husband sitting around doing nothing with his buddies who slyly slap him on the back for having a woman who does all the work (Prov. 31:28). This is 2015! I have a 9 to 5 outside of the house! And what about the single woman who doesn’t have children or a husband?  I don’t see any mention of her.  I think the Proverbs 31 standard is impossible to reach. I definitely don’t feel I reach it; I’m not even close.  But I know God and I know He doesn’t direct us to do anything that we are unable to do.  So, recently as was re-reading Proverbs 31, I asked God to help me.  I asked for a revelation because something was wrong. This is what God revealed me.

A Proverbs 31 woman is a woman who knows God, has a relationship with Him and knows who she is in Him; she has a heart for God (v. 30).  And because she does, she goes for God’s gold standard, excellence, at all times.  She gladly gives – her time and her resources (v. 13-15, 20).  She doesn’t squander the resources God gives her.  She takes care of all God provides to her.  She thinks and makes decisions wisely (v. 16-19, 21-22). She is a person others admire and not a source of gossip (v.10). She encourages others (v. 26). She knows her strength and confidence come from God. She knows she has a God-given purpose and is not ashamed to pursue it with gusto! People enjoy being around her and say complimentary things to others about her. People compliment her family members on what an awesome person she is and how lucky they are to have her in their life (v. 29-31).

Ahhhhh…. what a revelation!  My reading of Proverbs 31:10-31 was too literal. My natural self had been reading it instead of my spiritual self and, of course, as the Word says, the scripture was foolishness to me (1 Corinthians 2:14).  Now I know that Proverbs 31:10-31 is about a woman’s character.  When a woman, whether married or single, spends time with God and in His Word, she develops a heart for God.  When she develops a heart for God, she puts God first in her life.  God, in turn, changes her from the inside out and the fruit of the Spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control) become a genuine part of her nature (Galatians 5:22-23).  With the fruit of the Spirit in operation, a woman becomes a Proverbs 31 woman.

Thank you Lord!  Now I know I, and every other Christian woman, can be a Proverbs 31 woman.  We each need to put God first (Matthew 6:31-33). How? By taking time to read and study His Word, to talk with Him regularly through prayer and to take a moment before reacting to situations and put the fruit of the Spirit in play.  We each need to rest in Him (Isaiah 30:15). How? By trusting God because He doesn’t lie (Numbers 23:19).  He knew all about our situations and problems before they happened and has already worked them out in our favor (Romans 8:28). He even has perfect vengeance already in place for our enemies (Romans 12:14-21)!  Be still and we will see it.  We each need to allow Him to complete His work in us (Philippians 1:6).  How? By accepting that we mess up from time to time and He freely forgives us each time (Psalm 103:11-12; Isaiah 43:25; 1 John 1:9).  By doing what He says to do no matter how strange it might be to us. Most importantly, we each must know that God sees each of us as a Proverbs 31 woman.

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Sharman J. Monroe, a retired judge, now owns a successful business focused on wealth and empowerment coaching through residual income. She is a monthly contributor to Whine and Cheese.  Ms. Monroe writes the world-renowned blog, My Journey to Me. She also manages and contributes to the Anointed Women in Christ Blog. You can follow her on Twitter @sharmansjourney.  She is also an award-winning author. Her book on personal development, “The Plan A Way to Success”, is now at The My Journey to Me Store, as well as on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Meet Ms. Monroe at her next book signing! Visit her blog for dates and times.

Words of Wisdom: Getting Your House In Order

3Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; 4By knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. – Proverbs 24:3-4
The NKJ Women’s Study Bible verse translation talks about a house not being built with wallpaper, drapes and throw pillows but with wisdom, understanding and knowledge.

As God instructed me to get the place I call home in order, throwing away what needs to be thrown away, repairing what needs to be repaired, cleaning, etc, God also reminded me that the place where my spirit resides must also be put back in order. I joined a gym and began working out regularly. I now get monthly therapeutic massages to reduce tension and stress. I started eating fish again two to three times per week. But with Breast Cancer Awareness month, I also had to be more vigilant in making sure my house is in order.

This time three years ago I had two female family members on the same side battling related cancers. One breast cancer, the other ovarian cancer. My family member with ovarian cancer lost her battle and was buried the day before Thanksgiving. My other relative lived to see another day and went into remission. The following year my doctor said though the family members weren’t immediate, it was still too close so I had to be screened earlier than the standard recommendation.

What am I saying? Getting your house in order for the upcoming holiday season isn’t just about where you lay your head. It also means the house your spirit wakes up in every day. It means being aware of your family history, getting regular screenings and being a good steward over what God has blessed you with. Your body may not be perfect to your standards but just as the NKJ Women’s Study Bible translation states, “the word built is also used to describe the creation of the woman.” You are still blessed because you are here, built by Him and therefore must care properly for what you’ve been given.

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Joy T.J. Riley began writing at age eleven to channel feelings she could not express in spoken word. Yes, becoming an author was always a dream but she had no idea that by submitting to God her dream would come true. She was commissioned as a teacher of the Word of God in August 2006. Joy has co-founded organizations, been a guest speaker, mentored youth, and volunteered her time with senior citizens and the homeless.  Joy is president & co-founder of Get Your JOY In The Morning! LLC. It is not just about finding faith, but to show that it is through faith that one finds purpose. Joy is also the author of two books, Get Your JOY In The Morning! and Shh Don’t Tell. She has mentored and assisted five writers to become authors, currently writes the monthly Words of Wisdom column for Whine & Cheese Inc., writes on LinkedIn Pulse, is a contributing writer for The Divine Voice Magazine, been on radio, TV, and one of three women featured in a short documentary film, The Power of Femininity by Ratliff Events. Joy writes devotionals to several hundred people across the U.S., Caribbean, Europe, Africa and Asia.

Words of Wisdom: The State of Indifference

15″I know your works, that you are neither cold nor hot. I could wish you were cold or hot. 16So then, because you are lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will vomit you out of My mouth. -Revelation 3:15-16
The apostle John was addressing the seven churches in Asia Minor. He was specifically talking to the church in Laodicea. He labeled them as the lukewarm church as God gave him. Lukewarm is defined in Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary as not enthusiastic. Another way to term this is indifferent. I like the google definition for indifferent which can be said as:
adjective: indifferent
  1. 1.
    having no particular interest or sympathy; unconcerned.
    “they all seemed indifferent rather than angry”
    antonyms: heedful, caring
The church  was unconcerned, uncaring and dispassionate for those in need. Yet, the purpose was to provide healing and hope. God’s judgment was to do away with the lukewarm church.  How can a church be effective if it has turned lukewarm?  Being indifferent or lukewarm is not just an adjective but more of a state of mind.
A person can become numb to their own life and that of the lives around them to the point there is no care and concern. Love is an action and is shown through caring, random acts of kindness, happiness and joy when one rejoices and sadness when one is mourning. But one who is lukewarm feels nothing and doesn’t care. No amount of pain or joy sways the mind of indifference. God is love as stated in 1John. So if God is love, but those in the lukewarm church show nothing, then they are devoid of love.
What does this mean to you? What in your life are you lukewarm about? What area of your life is not displaying love? Why? Have you become lukewarm or indifferent? Do you know what love is not in order to determine what it is? If you need a helper, try the book of John. You can easily look up the definition of love in Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary and how it correlates as the opposite of lukewarm or indifference. The amount of numbness that comes with being lukewarm or indifferent is the same as emotional death. Allow God to quick start your heart that you may know what love is and become alive again. Ask Him to help melt away the indifference and demonstrate love to you.
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Joy T.J. Riley began writing at age eleven to channel feelings she could not express in spoken word. Yes, becoming an author was always a dream but she had no idea that by submitting to God her dream would come true. She was commissioned as a teacher of the Word of God in August 2006. Joy has co-founded organizations, been a guest speaker, mentored youth, and volunteered her time with senior citizens and the homeless.  Joy is president & co-founder of Get Your JOY In The Morning! LLC. It is not just about finding faith, but to show that it is through faith that one finds purpose. Joy is also the author of two books, Get Your JOY In The Morning! and Shh Don’t Tell. She has mentored and assisted five writers to become authors, currently writes the monthly Words of Wisdom column for Whine & Cheese Inc., writes on LinkedIn Pulse, is a contributing writer for The Divine Voice Magazine, been on radio, TV, and one of three women featured in a short documentary film, The Power of Femininity by Ratliff Events. Joy writes devotionals to several hundred people across the U.S., Caribbean, Europe, Africa and Asia.

It’s All Part of the Same Pie

I’m guilty.  I’ve written post after post talking about the value of reading or listening to material that improves the way you think and act.  An enlightened mind takes your thoughts and actions to new, higher levels of achievement.  And I’ve spent my time doing exactly that.

But recently I had a revelation.  Personal development encompasses more than the way you think. It also encompasses other areas of your life.

  1. Your Physical Being. Being healthy is vital.  If you feel sluggish, you act sluggishly. You certainly don’t want to read or listen to anything.   Be sure to incorporate exercise into your day.  You can start small by just adding more walking more during your day.  Invest in a good pedometer to count your steps.  Exercise reduces stress, and lowers blood pressure and cholesterol. Watch what you eat.  A steady diet of fast food, skipped breakfasts and snack food can lead to deficiencies in the nutrients and vitamins that your body needs to function properly.  Add more fruit, vegetables and water to your diet.  You will feel great and have more energy!
  1. Your Finances. I don’t need to tell you how stressful dealing with money can be. You can relieve a lot of that stress and develop your muscle of self-control by making a spending plan (I don’t like the word “budget”) each month, deducting expenditures daily, creating a plan to reduce your debt and setting up a savings account to which you add a set amount (say, $5.00) every time you earn income.  Create a Tax Drawer containing a folder for each month and put your receipts for tax-deductible items into folders as you get them. If you need to, hire a good financial planner who will teach you how to do these and other things to help you things.  Don’t allow your finances control you; you control them!
  1. Your Relationship with Others. Unfortunately, we live in a world inhabited by people and you can’t get avoid them.  You can, however, build relationships with people who encourage, support and add value to you.  Stay away from emotional vampires who revel in gossip and 24/7 drama, and who drain your energy and self-esteem.  Each day, focus on what you can do for someone else.  It can be small like smiling at others, saying hello and opening doors.  You can be a ray of sunshine to someone.  Another side benefit – you’ll also like yourself more! More on this topic will be discussed at the 2015 Relax.Relate.Retreat.
  1. Your Emotional State. Are you a touchy person? Do you fly off the handle easily? Do you live on an emotional rollercoaster, up one minute and down the next? You weren’t designed to live this way.  You’ll wear yourself out.  Stop it! Develop your muscle of self-control.  Breath and count to ten before you respond to someone.  Repeat back to him or her what was said to make sure you understood correctly.  When a problem arises, be still.  A calm mind can find a good solution faster than an upset mind.  And remember, sometimes a person doesn’t speak to you because or she just didn’t see you.
  1. Your Spiritual Relationship. I’m a Christian and I take time to develop a deeper relationship with God through reading and studying the Bible, and applying its principles in my life.  The more I learn about God, the more calm and peaceful I become about people and situations in life.  While my belief in God is unwavering, I understand your beliefs may rest elsewhere.  Whatever your beliefs, nurture your understanding and awareness of those beliefs. More on this topic will be discussed at the 2015 Relax.Relate.Retreat.

Develop strategies to improve the above areas in your life and you will reap the reward of being a healthier, well-rounded person with great friendships. There are apps available today to help you develop in each of these areas.  My next post will focus on those apps for iPhone and Android devices.

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Sharman J. Monroe, a retired judge, now owns a successful business focused on wealth and empowerment coaching through residual income. She is a monthly contributor to Whine and Cheese.  Ms. Monroe writes the world-renowned blog, My Journey to Me. She also manages and contributes to the Anointed Women in Christ Blog. You can follow her on Twitter @sharmansjourney.  She is also an award-winning author. Her book on personal development, “The Plan A Way to Success”, is now at The My Journey to Me Store, as well as on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Meet Ms. Monroe at her next book signing! Visit her blog for dates and times.

Do It ‘Cause You Like It

I like to encourage people to invest in themselves via personal development. Personal development is very near and dear to me.  I have immersed myself into the subject for over 12 years and have witnessed my personal growth. That’s why I devoted a blog to the subject.  While there are many keys, or elements, to personal development, there is one key most people overlook or don’t know about.  That key is to regularly do something you like.

One of the things I love doing is sewing.  Mrs. Spriggs, my neighbor when I was a little girl, knew how to sew and I would spend hours with her while she cut, pinned and sewed fabric with her magic machine into dresses.  I was enthralled.  A few years ago, I had the opportunity to take a beginner’s sewing class and my love for sewing has grown.  For me, sewing is relaxing and it causes me to focus, think and create.  By the way, when I say sewing, that includes going to a fabric store, buying a pattern and spending hours playing with different fabrics.  In fact, I don’t see fabric; I see what the fabric can become: a skirt, a pantsuit, or a purse.  I’ve made all kinds of clothes for my daughter, granddaughter and I.  Last year, I started making purses. This week, I made a netbook carry case as a surprise for my granddaughter. (don’t tell if you see her!)  When I finished the cover, I felt a serious sense of satisfaction and accomplishment.  My self-confidence soared and I jumped into my next sewing project.

Think now….what do you like to do? Or what would you like to learn how to do?  Is it cooking or sewing or dancing or taking photographs or learning a new language?  Whatever it is, go do it and do it regularly.  If you want to take class in something, check out your local community center or community college’s non-credit class list.  I find the classes these places are inexpensive and the teachers are great.

Also check the web.  My favorite website to find activities I like to do is www.meetup.com.  Meetup is a site where a person with an interest can go to find other people who share that interest.  People with common interests form a “meetup group” and they voluntarily get together or meet up, around that interest.  For instance, I belong to several different meetup groups: one for movies, one for golf and one for sewing.  I get an email when the group organizer plans an activity and I attend if I can.  You can also learn to do something you have an interest in through a meetup group.  Visit the website and try it out.  It is free.

Regularly doing something you like to do is a key to your personal development because it rejuvenates you, it builds your self-confidence and it gives you a sense of accomplishment.   Regularly doing something you like to do also helps you become well-rounded person.  But most of all, it makes you smile!

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Sharman J. Monroe, a retired judge, now owns a successful business focused on wealth and empowerment coaching through residual income. She is a monthly contributor to Whine and Cheese.  Ms. Monroe writes the world-renowned blog, My Journey to Me. She also manages and contributes to the Anointed Women in Christ Blog. You can follow her on Twitter @sharmansjourney.  She is also an award-winning author. Her book on personal development, “The Plan A Way to Success”, is now at The My Journey to Me Store, as well as on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Meet Ms. Monroe at her next book signing! Visit her blog for dates and times.

Dealing with Depression

From an herbalist’s perspective, a healthy person is able to cycle through a wide range of emotions: happy, sad, anxious and loved. Herbal clients fill out an extensive intake form with a section dedicated to moods you experience frequently.  Checkmarks only in the lonely, guilty, sad, scared, anxious, resentful boxes, create a conversation about mood disorders and depression.

Does the mood match the experience?  Usually there is a source of trauma.  If someone has lost a parent, or experienced a miscarriage, or recently received a life threatening diagnosis, it is healthy and expected to experience sadness, grief and fear.  If the source of trauma happened months, even years ago, and the same mood occurs daily, a deeper healing must occur.

Here are a few recommendations to support a healthy mood:

  • Surround yourself with people who are going to hold you to your higher self.  Go to people that love you. Create space to grieve and feel sad about whatever is going on.   Be honest with yourself.  The most radical act of love is self care.  Have a conversation with a therapist or set up an appointment with an herbalist or an alternative practitioner that will partner in your healing.

  • Check in.  Isolation is common with mood related disorders such as depression.  Be in communication with someone your trust because oftentimes a spiral into hopelessness can become a dark place very quickly.

  • Go outside.  Everyday I connect with Mother Earth because she supports and sustains all life.  Get out in nature, get some sunshine or touch dirt so you can feel connected and grounded.

  • Eat as healthy as possible.  Mood disorders can lead to stress eating.  Sugar is very addictive and can create serious mood and blood sugar swings. Avoid sugar, carbs and alcohol.  Consume fresh fruit, smoothies or natural juices.  Eat a healthy serving of greens and good fats (cold water fish, nuts and seeds high in omega 3s).

  • Try herbs. Aromatic/fragrant herbs are often very uplifting energetically.  Two of my favorite aromatic herbs for mood are lemon balm, to relieve nervousness, and holy basil to help adapt to stress.

Karen L. Ckarenulpepper is Founder/Creatress of Embracing Rhythm, LLC, a clinical women’s health and therapeutic massage practice that works primarily with women suffering with fatigue, stress, PMS, digestive issues, uterine fibroids and a host of other reproductive health issues. She makes dietary and lifestyle recommendations, in addition to custom blending herbal recommendations for each individual. As a licensed massage therapist and clinical herbalist, Karen is a fierce advocate for women’s health/wellness and empowers women to make informed decisions about their bodies. She can be reached at 301-613-2819 or embracingrhythm27@gmail.com for appointments and consultations.

Words of Wisdom: He Can Do Anything in His Name

12″Most assuredly, I say to you, he who believes in Me, the works that I do he will do also; and greater works than these he will do, because I go to My Father. 13And whatever you ask in My name, that I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. 14If you ask anything in My name, I will do it.” -John 14:12-14
A few years ago I recall a debate or a serious question someone asked about why when Christians pray do they say the words, “In Jesus Name” before ending the prayer. Now from the scripture above it makes logical sense but I want to talk about from a faith perspective. The verses above are from the section called “Answered Prayer” in John 14. The Word says in Hebrews that without faith, it is impossible to please the Heavenly Father. What does that mean? It means that if you pray for something but do not believe that what you are praying for will be answered, “then why should God answer it?” If you lack the belief yourself for what you pray for then the words mean nothing. The definition of faith is found in Hebrews 11. Paraphrased it means to believe what you cannot yet see. For me, this is personal.
Toward the end of 2014 God kept saying to me through the Holy Spirit that someone dear to me was not quite right health wise. I recognized feeling from when I lost a family member ten years ago. In March, the one dear to me asked me to embark on something together we had never done before. God said to me, “just say yes.” So I did. I learned right before my 40th birthday that the doctors had found something in this person’s lungs back in October of 2014 but the person was told in March. God confirmed. The way I was told I wasn’t able to react emotionally. All I could do was listen. When they left my home, I cried out to God something fierce. That night I began listening to forever Jones’ song, “You Can do Anything.” From that moment on, I decided that my prayer to God would be that when this loved one went back to the doctors for a retest, there would be nothing for them to see. I even shared it the next day in the Lord’s house. I enlisted some prayer warriors with me. Now the doctors told my loved one what they saw they believed to be benign or noncancerous. So that’s what the loved one believed. But again, I believe, Jesus can do anything. The retest was done earlier this week. I kept asking for the results as I believed there would be nothing. On Wednesday, I received the call. When I returned the call the loved one said, “the doctors found nothing. I guess it must have dissolved or something.” I shouted and blessed the Lord. And then I confessed what my prayer had been since May with the other prayer warriors. The entire time, the prayer was in the name of Jesus. The Lord who heals or Jehovah Rapha is in the name of Jesus. He is called by many names.
Just as the friends who lowered their friend down through the ceiling to get to Jesus on his mat/sick bed, it was through their faith in the name of Jesus that their friend was completely restored. I whined for a minute but then prayed believing for the cheese that would come. If you have lacked faith before, let this serve as a testimony to you, Jesus can do anything in His name if you wholeheartedly believe.
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Joy T.J. Riley began writing at age eleven to channel feelings she could not express in spoken word. Yes, becoming an author was always a dream but she had no idea that by submitting to God her dream would come true. She was commissioned as a teacher of the Word of God in August 2006. Joy has co-founded organizations, been a guest speaker, mentored youth, and volunteered her time with senior citizens and the homeless.  Joy is president & co-founder of Get Your JOY In The Morning! LLC. It is not just about finding faith, but to show that it is through faith that one finds purpose. Joy is also the author of two books, Get Your JOY In The Morning! and Shh Don’t Tell. She has mentored and assisted five writers to become authors, currently writes the monthly Words of Wisdom column for Whine & Cheese Inc., writes on LinkedIn Pulse, is a contributing writer for The Divine Voice Magazine, been on radio, TV, and one of three women featured in a short documentary film, The Power of Femininity by Ratliff Events. Joy writes devotionals to several hundred people across the U.S., Caribbean, Europe, Africa and Asia.

The Philadelphia3 Branch Launch!

Laverne1 Branch Name: Philadelphia 3

Gathering Date: July 2015

I heard about Whine and Cheese through the Relax.Relate.Retreat. advertisement from a group I am a part of. Reading the Whine & Cheese website led to me to inquire what the network was all about and how I can become a member. Once I spoke with Natalie about how to get started, I truly prayed and ask God for guidance as I carefully selected a group of women. I was led to select a very diverse group. There were married, single, and different religion here as well as age difference.

My experience was great! Everyone I invited looked forward to coming. I even received some help preparing food. We stayed until 2am. We talked, we laughed, we cried, we encouraged. It was truly a Whine and Cheese.  The genuine sisterhood, encouragement, inspiration, relationship building, fellowship and networking, and support was more that I expected.

This launch truly spoke volumes to what us as women need in our lives after playing so many roles to everyone else on a day to day basis. I am so glad for the turn out and looking forward to the next one.
Laverne Cheeseboro is the Vine of the Philadelphia3 branch located in Philadelphia, PA.